Lady regrets rejecting admirer after failed relationships

A Nigerian lady has shared a deeply emotional and thought-provoking story about her NYSC camp best friend, who now blames her for losing a devoted admirer she never liked or appreciated at the time.

Taking to X, @Ryann_Agada recounted a past experience involving her friend, who had an admirer that showered her with love, care, and selfless generosity. Despite his deep affection and unwavering devotion, the friend dismissed his advances, solely judging him based on his fashion sense—oversized trousers and heeled slippers—which led them to nickname him “10 Yards.”

According to Ryann, 10 Yards was not just an ordinary admirer; he was incredibly kind-hearted and always made sure her friend had everything she needed. He frequently brought provisions, bought food, and went out of his way to take care of her. However, her friend never saw him as a romantic option, tolerating his presence only for the benefits he provided while secretly crushing on another corps member.
  

My NYSC experience with my friend who disliked a kind admirer

  
“During my NYSC camp, my best friend and I grew really close, and we even became roommates after camp. There was this guy who genuinely adored her, and when I say adored, I mean he was completely smitten with her. He liked her so much that he was willing to go to any lengths to make her happy. Unfortunately, she never felt the same way towards him. In her words, he simply wasn’t ‘her type.’ The truth was, the guy wasn’t bad-looking at all, but his dressing style made her uninterested in him.

His trousers were always oversized, and his pam slippers had a little heel, which made them stand out. We found it amusing and jokingly nicknamed him “10 Yards.” I even saved his number on my phone as “Christy’s 10 Yards.”

Despite his awkward fashion choices and sometimes untidy appearance, he had a golden heart. He was genuinely one of the nicest people we knew. He was always available whenever we needed help, and in many ways, he became our go-to person.

His family owned a restaurant near our Place of Primary Assignment (PPA). Our first interaction with him began when we went there to eat, and to our surprise, he refused to take any money from us. He insisted that we were always welcome to come back and eat whenever we wanted. It was this gesture that made my friend give him her number—not because she liked him, but because she saw him as a means to free food. They started dating, but she never treated him with love or respect.

This guy went out of his way to take care of her. He frequently brought foodstuff, purchased provisions for our house, and even sent her lunch while she was at work. But despite everything he did for her, she remained uninterested and indifferent toward him.

During that time, my friend had a crush on another corps member, and she was obsessed with him. One day, he invited her to a corpers’ hangout, and they stayed out until midnight. The group later decided to go clubbing, but my friend wasn’t in the mood, so they left her behind. She was intoxicated and stranded. Desperate, she called me for help, and I immediately thought of 10 Yards. Without hesitation, I reached out to him. It was already past midnight, yet he went all the way to pick her up and brought her home without a single complaint. The whole time, he kept checking if she was okay, making sure she was comfortable.

On her birthday, he went above and beyond. He paid for everything she wore, covered the cost of food and drinks for the entire party, and even got her thoughtful gifts. He arrived at the event dressed in what we jokingly called “20 yards” this time—probably a new outfit, chosen specially to impress her.

However, instead of appreciating his efforts, my friend became irritated by his presence. She felt embarrassed by him and didn’t want him around. Even when he tried to take a picture with her, she refused. She pulled me aside and begged me to tell him to leave, saying he was ruining her party. Eventually, she coldly asked him to leave, and without making a fuss, he quietly left.

The next day, 10 Yards reached out to me, asking if we could meet up. He needed advice.

When we met, he confided in me about how much he loved my friend and how he wasn’t sure if he could let her go. He was heartbroken. I told him the truth—I advised him to walk away because she would never appreciate him. I told him the same thing I would tell my brother if he were in a similar situation. He seemed reluctant, but deep down, I could tell he knew I was right.

Later, I shared this conversation with my friend, but she didn’t care. She simply shrugged it off and said she had no feelings for him anyway. A few months later, we completed our service year and moved on with our lives.

Fast forward to yesterday—out of nowhere, she sent me a message saying she had texted 10 Yards, hoping to reconnect and apologize for how she treated him. But to her shock, he told her he was no longer interested in her.

I was surprised and asked why she suddenly wanted him back. After all, two years ago, she didn’t even like anything about him. And from what I saw on his Facebook profile, not much had changed—he was still the same person.

Then she confessed the real reason: all the guys she had dated after 10 Yards were only interested in flings and never wanted anything serious. Now, after experiencing heartbreak after heartbreak, she suddenly realized that she wanted real love—the kind of love 10 Yards had always given her. But it was too late. He had moved on, and he made it clear that he would never go back to her.

What’s even more shocking is that she blamed me for it! She accused me of ruining her chances with him. She called me ‘ITK’ (I Too Know) and jealous, saying that as her friend, I should have supported her no matter what—even if she treated him poorly. She said I had no right to advise him to leave her and that I meddled where I shouldn’t have.

Now, I’m left wondering—did I do something wrong?”
  

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